H.U.M.A.N: Finding Balance as a High-Achieving Woman

If you read this blog, over time you will find that I love acronyms. They are a big part of my love language. As a therapist who helps women overcome perfectionism and people-pleasing, I understand how important it is to realize the power and limitations of being human. Have you struggled with pushing yourself beyond reasonable limits?

You may have taken on lofty goals at the expense of your mental health. It’s crucial to remember that you are human and that means you must accept that mistakes, the need for breaks and even experiencing heartaches are likely but do not have to hinder your progress. By honoring your limitations, you can avoid burnout and sustain your productivity over the long term. Understanding the balance you need helps you prioritize your health and personal life alongside your professional ambitions. Managing your expectations can prevent the undue pressure you place on yourself, allowing for a more compassionate self-view. Accepting your imperfections fosters resilience and growth while nurturing yourself ensures you remain mentally and physically strong. Embracing these principles can help you thrive in a way that is both sustainable and fulfilling. So, what can you do to remind that humanness must be considered alongside achievement?

As you accept that being perfect or having the ability to please everyone does not align with being human, meditate on this acronym that allows you be human with grace:

Honor your limitations

Understand the balance you need

Manage your expectations

Accept your imperfections

Nurture yourself

Don't view your limitations as bad. Limitations are good because they help you gauge when you push yourself too far. Limitations are needed to expand your territory and increase your success all while maintaining your emotional health. Pulling back in the right areas can help you fulfill your purpose with more ease. Balance is the most effective when you understand it for yourself and know what it means for you. Your balanced life may not look like someone else's balance. I can tell you to find balance but only you can define it for you. Keep these questions in your mind as a gauge:

When do you begin to feel off and out of sync?

When does your patience run thin and your attitude become negative?

What schedule increases anxiety?

Have you taken on too much and what is the magic ratio for you to ensure rest and keep up the resiliency that makes you tick?

I understand you may enjoy having a full plate, as it feeds your need for achievement and success. However, it's important to manage taking on too much at once, as it can lead to feeling overwhelmed. Just as overeating can cause physical discomfort, overloading yourself with tasks can upset your emotional balance. When you find yourself with an endless list of to-dos, take a step back and re-evaluate. If what you're doing no longer feels fulfilling, it may be time to reassess your priorities and figure out why.

Evaluate whether or not you might expect more from yourself than others. If you find you are trying to please everyone, take a step back and realize you may be putting undue pressure on yourself.

While you strive to do your best, remember that perfection isn't necessary and often isn't attainable. Embracing your imperfections allows your authenticity to shine, showcasing your comfort in being your true self. After all, none of us are perfect, and that's what makes us human. Lastly, remember to nurture your humanness, giving yourself the care and compassion you deserve.

If you're a high-achieving woman struggling with anxiety, depression, or perfectionism, know that you don't have to navigate this journey alone. I'm here to help you find balance and embrace your authentic self.

Take the first step towards thriving with authentic joy—schedule a consultation today.

Let’s work together to create a path that honors your ambitions while nurturing your well-being and being human.

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