Perfectionism is Petty

Have you ever had a petty "friend" who keeps score, reminds you of past mistakes, and makes you feel small over trivial things? Perfectionism is that internal voice that side-eyes your outfit choices, brings up that embarrassing moment from years ago, and makes you feel guilty for not having your life together when no one does. It’s the inner critic, disguised as a voice that has your best interest at heart, but ultimately holding you back from fully embracing your progress and celebrating your growth Would you let someone like this speak into your life or have continual access to you? I hope the answer is no. Just as you would set a boundary with others, you can also set one with perfectionism and release its hold on you.

The Petty Ways Perfectionism Shows Up

Perfectionism isn’t about excellence; it’s actually about fear. It tricks you into believing that if you do things perfectly you’ll be worthy.

Perfectionism will cause you to:

• Obsess over minor details: Instead of celebrating progress, you fixate on what could have been better.

• Procrastinate and avoid finishing things: Perfectionism tells you that if something isn’t flawless, it’s not worth putting out into the world.

• Constantly compare yourself to others: You scroll, compare, and feel like you’ll never measure up without realizing that no one’s life is as polished as their highlight reel.

  
  

How to Overcome Perfectionism and Reclaim Your Life

Here’s how to break free:

1. Challenge the “All or Nothing” Mindset

Perfectionism tells you that if you can’t do something perfectly, you shouldn’t do it at all. But life is built on progress, not perfection. Done is better than perfect.

2. Redefine Success

Success isn’t about flawlessness; it’s about growth. Instead of focusing on being perfect, focus on being consistent. Progress, no matter how small, is still progress.

3. Permit Yourself to Be Human (https://www.basileiacounseling.com/post/you-re-h-u-m-a-n)

You will make mistakes. You will have off days. And guess what? That’s okay. The most successful people in the world aren’t perfect, they’re resilient. Read that again.

4. Detach Your Worth from Your Achievements

Perfectionism thrives on the lie that your value is based on what you do. But your worth is inherent—it doesn’t fluctuate based on your accomplishments.

5. Take Imperfect Action

Stop waiting until everything is “just right” before you take action. Whether it’s launching a project, speaking up in a meeting, or finally starting that new habit—do it now, even if it’s messy.

Are you ready to stop letting perfectionism hold you back? It's time to embrace your progress, not perfection, and give yourself the grace you deserve. If you'd like to break free from the stronghold of perfectionism, schedule your courtesy consultation with me today.