Is People-Pleasing Really People-Pleading?

What if what looks like trying to please others is actually a desperate plea for acceptance, love, or safety? Could you be begging others to see that you are worthy by accommodating them, even when it means neglecting your own needs and self-care?

When you constantly betray yourself, your actions are crying out for them to see you as enough. If I do this, will I be enough? If I accommodate you in this area, will I be enough? See me, accept me, like me are the underlying themes.

The question then becomes, is selling yourself short truly worth it? Do you want to be liked for what you do or for who you are? If you can only matter in someone's life when your sacrifice is evident, should they really be there? But the bigger question is, do they even realize you are saying no to yourself to say yes to them?

Relationships are built on requests. If you are dealing with people-pleasing and perfectionism, you may internalize these requests as musts or requirements. True healing begins when you stop waiting for others to define your worth. When you choose to honor your own limits, even when it disappoints someone else, you’re learning to stand in your own value. You’re no longer asking, Am I enough for them? but instead declaring, I am already enough, whether they see it or not. What you can or cannot do does not define your worth.

Are you pleading for others to accept you in the form of people-pleasing? If so, it’s time to pause and ask yourself what you truly need to feel worthy because your worth isn’t tied to how much you give or how well you perform.

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